Posts tagged military love
Posts tagged military love
even in life in general…you never know what’s going to happen tomorrow. You don’t know if you or anyone else will have tomorrow. It’s a terrible thing that life brings upon us, the unknown or uncertainty of tomorrow, but it’s also kind of beautiful. It forces you to live in the day. Live in that very moment and cherish anything, everything and everyone that you have.
I love my life. I have been through a lot but I wouldn’t change anything because it brought me to the life that I have now, the person that I love and the person that I am today. I have no idea what is going to happen in the future. I have a picture of what I would LIKE for it to look like and who I want it to be with, but nothing is ever guaranteed.
Especially coming into this life style where nothing is guaranteed and plans change more than the breaths you take in a day, you need to come to terms with the fact that you need to live in the moment. Never take a single moment for granted.
Never hold anything back. Never say “someday” or “maybe” or “soon”. If you want something to happen in your life, you need to take control of it and fight for what you want.
I’m not trying to be morbid in talking about this, I’m trying to be encouraging for you guys to go out there and make the best of your life. You can sit around and mope and wish that your man was next to you…or you can make the best of your day and live in bliss knowing that you have that man. That man that’s worth missing. That man that misses you across the country and would rather wait for you than be with anyone else.
Life is not guaranteed. Love isn’t guaranteed…so if you have both. You’re lucky. Enjoy it :)
(if you don’t agree…cool..but this is what I have to say on my blog, so yep)
I’m so sick and tired of getting on here, to escape from the world and to vent or to talk to the friends that I’ve made on here and I see milso’s from different branches and sometimes even the same branch just being completely rude to each other or arguing about the most stupid shit.
These are my opinions:
alright I think that’s all for now.
I just don’t understand why people can’t get along. We all have this blog to vent, share our experiences, meet other milso’s, post and blog things that help us get through the days..so just stop. Good Lord.
I know that this is kinda depressing, but it is totally realistic to how us milso’s and military men and women live our lives.
I just saw on the internet about this thing called a “just in case letter”.
The “just in case letter” all started with a woman, who’s husband left a letter with her name on it on their dresser, before he was deployed. Saying his last goodbye and anything he wanted to say “just in case” something happened to him. That letter sat through two deployments without being touched, but they both knew that it was there. Unfortunately three weeks into her husbands last tour, he was KIA. Although she never wanted to ever open that letter, she is SO thankful that her husband left her that letter.
This is primarily for people in the military, so if you think that this is a good idea, maybe you and your SO can talk about maybe doing something like this. Whether it’s a actual letter that you keep or you can do it online. You can go to a website (www.justincaseletter.com) and sign up to create your “just in case letter”. When you make the letter, You put an email address at the bottom, to whom the letter is written to and it sends them a code to get to the letter.
I know that this isn’t something that we want to think about, while our men/women are away protecting our country, but it is realistic and if you can’t handle that, you have a lot coming. I hope that you NEVER have to open your “just in case letter” from your SO, but if something ever happens, wouldn’t you want a last “talk” with him/her?
some milso’s get mad when they hear this and they’re like
Ummmm No. I fell in love with him wayyy before the military!
No..I fell in love with him and the military just so happened to be apart of his life. I didn’t want this..I just wanted him!
But honestly for me, I feel that I did choose this. We chose this life.
I met him when we were Seniors in high school. I fell in love with him before he was in the military, BUT when we first starting dating he told me that he was thinking about joining the Marine Corps. I wasn’t even sure that we were going to last, I was just kinda taking it day by day, so when he said this, I just responded with how I always do when I hear that a friend is joining the military “That’s awesome, I’m really proud of you, but I’m gonna miss you.”
I never knew how much that statement would come true and become a huge part of my life…but I DID choose this life.
I thought, “Hey, I’ll give it a try…I really like him maybe we can make a military relationship work. It can’t be THAT hard”.
But damn was I a freaking moron for saying that. haha (at least the last sentence)
Being in a military relationship, whether you’re dating, married, engaged whatever…is really really hard. It takes a lot out of you and there are some days where you just want to curl up and cry until he/she comes home.
But every time I feel that way, I’m always like…”remember I chose this. This is what I want. I want him. I want everything about him. I love him and I do all of this for a reason.”
My point of all this, is that some girls forget that we chose to do what we do and that we’re doing all of this for a reason. We’re doing it for what develops on the way and what we get in the end with the love of our lives. Please don’t act like this was just thrusted upon you. No grown male Marine was dropped off in a wooden basket on your doorstep. (okay maybe a bad analogy haha)
Remember that you’re fighting for something way greater than the little challenges you go through each day. Stay strong…You can do this.
Whenever I miss him. I re-read old letters exchanged between us. It’s amazing that even though they’re so old…I can still hear his voice whenever I read them. Brings back all the emotions and love that I felt while he was away…It reminds me of what we’re fighting for and that true love does exist.
The other night we were laying in bed watching a movie and I got really tired. I could hear him still up and he continued to watch the movie until it was over. Then he whispered,
“I love you babe”
and I whispered (half asleep) “I love you too, so much”…without moving at all.
He leaned over and kissed me on my head and said “I love you” again.
A couple seconds later I hear him start talking to me. He says:
Babe, you are the only girl for me. I love you more than anything in the world…
I didn’t say anything..I just laid there silently, waiting to see if he was going to say anything else, and because of this he thought I was sleeping. I was honestly just too tired to talk after the busy day we had and thought that was the end of it…
But, he wasn’t done talking. It didn’t matter that he thought I was sleeping..he just lowered his voice to a whisper. Wanting to talk to me, without disturbing me.
I know that I get mad sometimes, but that’s just it. I want you for the good times AND the bad times. I can’t wait to call everything that’s mine ‘ours’. Everything will be ours. I know that day isn’t super soon, but someday. Someday soon I promise. You will officially be mine. Goodnight my love.
He thought I was sleeping the whole time but because I was facing the opposite direction, he didn’t see the smile on my face the entire time he was talking. I wish I could have said something back, but it was just so sweet and I didn’t wanna ruin it.
I then felt him get under the covers and slowly make his way over to me, putting his arms around me and getting into our usual “bear hug” sleeping position.
The next day, he said “Did you hear me talking to you last night?” and played dumb and said, “No? What do you mean?” and he said, “good…it’ll be our secret then”
I looked at the window smiling..loving him with every part of my heart.
“Freedom Is Not Free”
Memorial Day 2012
You shouldn’t fall in love with your man because he’s in the military. His uniform shouldn’t be the most attractive trait about him. After all, Lois fell in love with Clark before she knew he was Superman…Love the person, not the “cape”.