Posts tagged love
Posts tagged love
Sometimes I just get overwhelmed with how much I love you and I try my best to tell you and then it comes out in this big mushy paragraph and I don’t want to be annoying so then I don’t (always) and then I just sit here and miss you.I wish I could constantly show you how much I love you instead. If I was with you, it would be so much easier. Because I could just look at you, grab your hand and smile, and that would be enough. But instead I’m stuck all the way over here with over a million words in the English language and I can’t find the right way to put them together.
Now, this doesn’t have to pertain to military relationships, distance, or anything….just plain old mushy gushy love. The long of the short of it, is that it’s not always that. It’s not always mushy, gushy, and what you see in the movies. Loving someone is hard. No wait, scratch that…let me say it a different way. Falling in love is SO easy; effortless, even. But staying in love, that’s the hard part. After a while you both will have to put effort into staying in love. But, that’s just how it is. And, sorry to break it to you romantics, but I’m going to be like your parents when they told you Santa wasn’t real….If you believe that there is only ONE person in the world for you, you’re an idiot. That’s just a stupid belief that is created by today’s love stories, fairy tales, and Nicholas Sparks books. Okay, so now you’re probably mad…but think about it. Out of EVERYONE in this world, you are gonna say that the person you are with/that you end up with is the ONLY one who could make you feel that way? Noo way. My boyfriend and I have even had this conversation before…we are madly in love, but it’s a bit childish to say that we couldn’t love anybody else. BUT DOESN’T THAT MAKE IT EVEN MORE SPECIAL?? It makes the bond between us that much more amazing because we could be with anyone, we could love anyone, but we just want each other. We are done looking and yeah there could be other people that match our personalities and what we look for in a spouse, but why bother with them when we have each other. Loving a person is hard. It’s all about not giving up, even when times are hard and not letting the other person walk away even when they tell you to let them go. I was actually thinking today, there were so many times, when I could have given up on us…some could argue and say that I should have given up…and that would have been it. Done. But, I didn’t. I never will. I will always grab his hand if he ever walks out the door. I am never going to give up on him and I know he will do the same for me. Loving someone doesn’t mean that things will be perfect. Every couple argues, every couple says things they don’t mean sometimes, and every couple has the ability to get over it all….but in the end which one will you be? When you get married, what two words come to mind. “I do.” duh, that was an easy question. But think about it, saying “I do.” doesn’t stop that day. You need to say “i do” every single day from that day on. You should have 60+ years together of you both waking up in the morning and rolling over to the other persons awful morning breath and you still say “i do”. Because, we all know people that are divorced. We all know that just because you say “I do” on your wedding doesn’t mean that you have no other choice and that the other person is glued next to you. Loving someone is about saying “i do” “i do” “i do” “i do” every single day even when “you dont.”
Deployment Homecoming Day 2013
copyright to: Proudmarinesgirl
This was by far the best day of my life….I love you more than life itself.
(please do not steal/claim as your own/take off my name from this! Thanks!)
Everything and everyone in your life is temporary. That’s it. Sad? Yeah…but it’s true.
So if there is someone you want or something you want in your life, for the rest of time, fight for it.
Don’t let it get away.
Make it a part of forever.
Why does it feel like my road to happiness is always under construction?
From this day on, I am not gonna worry about the future or what is to come. I am not going to stress myself out about stuff that may or may not happen, I am just going to hope for the best and try my hardest to live in the moment. I am about to start my last year of school and then after that, I will focus on what I need to do, but focusing on a job, where I’m going to live, etc., is only holding me back from current opportunities that may come my way. I love my man, and I want nothing more than to spend my life with him, but I just need to learn that everything happens the way it’s supposed to happen and when it is supposed to happen and when our time comes to be together and live happily ever after, it will.
I love you babe and no matter what, my heart will always be yours.
To the future, and whatever it has in store for us.
(I want you to know some things about bootcamp (specifically USMC bootcamp) and my experiences with him being gone. Listen or not, this is what happened with us.)
I’ve seen a lot of people on here talking about bootcamp and their SO’s officially leaving to become part of the military and I thought I would shed some wisdom. While I was looking through the “milso” tag on here I saw someone talking about how she finally got her boyfriends first letter from bootcamp and that he told her in the letter "they say you’re not going to write me at all".
One thing you need to know about you boyfriend/fiance/husband going to bootcamp is that they are going to literally tear them to shreds. They want them to focus on nothing but being at bootcamp and the military. They try to drill into their minds that they don’t need us. When he was in bootcamp a couple years ago, they constantly told him that I was going to cheat on him, that It wouldn’t ever work with us and that we just needed to end it. They constantly drilled that into his head because like the saying goes “if you needed a girlfriend/fiance/wife the military would have issued you one.”
The constant teasing about us and telling him that we weren’t going to last and that I was cheating on him and blah blah blah didn’t even stop until he was stationed on base. Thats like a year into the military process.
SO what you guys just need to understand is that this is going to happen. They are trying to “look out for their guys” and so they are going to try to tell your love stories about girls that cheated on them, wives that left them during deployment, etc. For some reason people (especially in the military I’ve noticed) cannot get it through their heads that just because THEY had a bad experience with love…does NOT mean that it is going to happen to everyone else.
You just have to ignore these comments and talk to your SO about it. Let him know that none of the things they are saying are true. Whether or not he trusts you, has nothing to do with it, because when you are far away from home, constantly being beat down and torn mentally, and then someone is telling you that there is NO way someone is waiting for you on the other side, it gets hard for them.
You guys just have to ignore it, and push past it. There were multiple times when they would be like:
Marine: “you seriously think you’re gonna marry this girl? That she is the one for you?”
my love: “yes, I do. She means everything to me.”
That’s all they need to do. Just trust each other no matter what and realize that from this point on…EVERYONE (mostly) is going to doubt you. No one will think that your relationship will last..but PROVE TO THEM THAT IT WILL.
We have been together through all this military crap for THREE YEARS….so I would love to walk up to one of those doubters and just simply say, “yeah…still here.”