After reading the confessional from the guy saying that he cheats on his wife while he is overseas, but it’s “just sex” and that it doesn’t change love….Go fuck yourself.
Reading this literally made my blood boil. I cannot stand when people say, it’s “just sex”. okay, even if she did feel that way as well…she is trusting you and trusting the fact that you are going to be faithful to her, just as she is (hopefully) at home. Please, I beg you…don’t read this and agree with this person. If you are not going to be faithful while overseas, why would you be faithful when your spouse is out of town on a business trip, going to get groceries, or visiting their family for the weekend.
If you’re not going to be faithful, do not be together. If I EVER found out that my husband cheated on me while being away…while I was waiting for him and praying every second for his safety so we could continue our lives together, I would KILL HIM. Especially, if he said that it was “just sex”. Oh my God.
My boyfriend cheated on me a long time ago….he was really drunk and made out with a girl. He told me the morning after it happened and he begged for my forgiveness. He knew he was in the wrong and I could tell that it was a HUGE mistake. I forgave him…because I know that people are not perfect, and it also mattered to me that he told me. I didn’t find out from someone, he told me right away in the morning. Even then…hearing that he just MADE OUT with a girl, broke my heart. I feel bad for his wife and honestly…I think she deserves better than him.
Trust is one of the most important things in a relationship. So, if you both cannot trust each other…or if you cannot trust the other person, it won’t work. You have to decide whether you are going to forgive and forget past mistakes and move forward, or don’t be with them. I know it’s hard sometimes to trust someone, but to be in a relationship with someone that will go anywhere or last any amount of distance, trust has to be strong.
My boyfriend has betrayed my trust. There has been times when I never thought I would be able to trust him again, even if we did work things out….but one day I decided that I just had to forgive him when he asked and pleaded for my forgiveness and I had to move forward. I knew it was either trust him or be broken up.
I am a firm believer that if someone has not given you a reason to not trust them…then you have to. If someone has never given you a reason to think they have cheated, lied, etc…then you have no reason to not trust them.
But, like I said…you have to decide if your relationship is worth it. If they are sorry for wrongdoings and want to move forward with you, then you have to decide to forgive them or break up.
Bullshit. What a disgrace.
If you cannot be faithful while dealing with difficult times then do not be in a relationship. If you need something to “feel good” go jack off. Thats part of marriage, staying faithful, truthful, and sticking to your vows no matter what, through good and bad, for better and for worse.I get that you’re going through hell while you’re wife is “safe at home”, but sex isn’t just sex when you’re committed to someone else. Sex isn’t just sex when the person you “love” is trusting you while they are worried sick at home over whether or not you’re even alive.
Fuck this. You’re an asshole.
I hate the whole “don’t cheat because your man/woman is fighting for this country” thing. I mean, I get it, but cheating is wrong period. It’s just as bad to cheat on your man/woman if they are flipping burgers and deep frying fries at McDonald’s. Cheating is wrong no matter what they do for a living.
Me: “What is your favorite thing about me? Absolute favorite. Reaaddyyy Go!”
Him: “Uhhhhh I can’t just pick one thing. Well, do you mean physical or like personality?”
Me: “Well, I meant personality haha and name a few if you can’t pick. I’ll think of mine now.”
Him: “Alright…my top favorite thing is…idk the way you make me feel. For example. Remember when you said I was different like I was hiding something from you? I honestly wasn’t hiding anything…haha I was just so excited to see you I didn’t know how to express my excitement or show you. The only “rational” thing I could think of doing was hug you until all the air left your lungs. Like, I wanted to hold you closer when I obviously couldn’t.”
Me: O.O wow.
…but I’m trying hard to keep my feet on the ground.
This week is my last week of school for the semester. That means I only have one more semester until I am graduated from college. WHAT?! Crazy.
Also, I am telling my job that I am quitting and need to be done after Christmas. That way, I don’t screw them over during the holiday, but in enough time that I can do job searches (serious job searches) for after I’m graduated and then I will have some time to figure out my life. I am super stressed recently, but I’m trying to keep grounded and remember that I have amazing friends, and amazing man and a wonderful family to support me in everything that I do :)